You can set out to try something new, shift feelings of discontent to feeling more at ease, and give yourself the time and attention to heal. Yes AND be sure to bring it home with that follow-through. 

How do we get the follow-through? It's gonna take longer than you think. Your brain is gonna tell you that you can't do it, it doesn't matter, and who are you to think you deserve more?

So again, how do we get the follow-through?

You build credibility with yourself.

Credibility with ourselves is the key to showing up for ourselves and when we start showing up for ourselves in the way we want, we are building trust and accountability. Integrity. This can soften the voice in our head that says we are not enough, too broken to heal, and are stuck in the world of stuckity stuck.

So how do we build credibility?

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One beautiful...

Do ya ever notice the self-talk happening in your head? I first noticed when I was 19 years old and I was surprised at how mean I was. Queen beeing myself and heckling when I wasn't doing what I thought I should be doing. I was nice and thoughtful to others and a mean girl all up inside my head. Thankfully I noticed and then it became a game as to how to change it. How do we cultivate self-love when our subconscious thoughts can be influencing every little thing? You notice.

Bringing attention to your inner dialogue is a huge step towards cultivating a love of self and when you like yourself even just a little bit, you will notice that the whole world is that little bit friendlier. 

Notice your thoughts...how do your talk to yourself? If you are a bit of a bully, add a little patience and some "it's ok" and "you've got this". Find a favorite and write it on a sticky note and put it in all the places! The car dash, your bathroom mirror, your bedside...

Space...the final frontier...and...a big sign that you are healing. You go to the grocery store and you notice as you get in the car that you didn't think about your back once. Space. Your friend asks you how you are doing and instead of feeling cornered between lying with a fine or dumping with the whole story of all that isn't working, you notice the connection. A friend checking in. Space where we can be with ourselves...content and at peace. You notice the blue clouds on the way to work. Your body starts to crave real food, a call with your bestie, and instead of tossing and turning all night you wake up feeling rested with a lingering hint of an epic dream.

Giving yourself the space to heal gives you more space to be, see, and do. Add a little la de da to your week and the whole world slows down. You get to know yourself and when you know yourself, know what you love, you get to be your biggest advocate. Create the space, and joy is right there waiting for you....

There are a few things you come away with when you grow up on a farm. Ways of being that are ingrained in your world like brushing your teeth. One you might not know about is you always close the gate. Even if the horses aren't in that pasture, you close the gate. I didn't realize this was a thing until living with another who does not close the gate. And then that brought me to a place of pondering what else is in there, a part of me, that I don't even realize.

A great way to get to know yourself is to notice what you love, what's important to you, and what gives you that warm fuzzy "all is well" feeling down to your toes. When you examine your values, you can really zoom in on your gifts and what you get to bring to the world. 

The dictionary definition of value - a person's principles or standards of behavior: one's judgment of what is important in life.

It's something I haven't really put into words. It's like a compass that I...

Catchin' that summer vibe? The kids are out of school and the tank tops and maxi dresses are coming out of the bin from the basement. I'm switching out my wool yarn for cotton in the realm of knitting, and the fresh greens from my brother's garden are filling my fridge. (Thanks Johnny!)

I'm not on vacation yet but I am stepping into all things summer, like afternoons of sitting in the sun, eating grilled zucchini, and watching my perennials pop!

You don't have to be on the beach or at the music festival to make the most of your summer. It's all about the vibe. Put on those sassy sunglasses and roll down those windows on the way to the grocery store. Shazam!

Finding your vibe is like finding your new favorite pair of purple pants, a song that feels like it was written for you and your moment, or meeting a friend that feels like your newest bestie!

Here's a hint...look to stretch yourself a bit.

Your brain might say those pants are too bright, the songs are...

I love to knit and if ya didn't know already I love to play guitar and write songs. I used to ride my bike in my cool bike shorts and shirt with all the pockets and music in my ears as I rode down Grant's Trail. Once a year I would do a small triathlon and a few 5k or 10K runs. Especially the Halloween ones where you get all dressed up. I got my best time dressed as a granny in my housecoat running in downtown St Louis! Since I got sick in March 2020, like so many people, my body cannot do what it used to do. After that first year of Long Haulers, I decided that since I can't ride my bike...I was gonna get really good at the guitar.

When you lose something or someone or a part of yourself, it can put you in a place where you don't know what to do. This is when you let yourself grieve and sit with the loss...and you go inside and you meet yourself. You sit by the fire like there's nowhere to go. You fiercely love like you'll live to tell.

It can feel...

I got on a plane. It's been ages and I had to do a lot of sweet talking to myself and of course, it was no big deal but try telling your nervous system that it's no big deal. Bracing for the what-if comes in all shapes and sizes. Sometimes pushing through the feels, just like pushing through pain, is not the way through. 

Knowing your edge and honoring where you are is how you find your way and as you find your way, you are discovering the best parts of yourself.

All that sweet talkin' is really bringing in empathy and compassion...for yourself. Try that on. That voice in your head that might be heckling you, pushing you to do more, do better, can be reprogrammed to be your biggest cheerleader, and who couldn't use a little more cheerleader in their world? Imagine a day that is full of ease and grace and as you climb into bed and turn off the light you know, deep down, that in all that you did, all that you...

That's some beautiful blue sky out there. The light that lingers on at the end of the day...bring it!  I'm so ready for spring and yet here's the sweet spot. Change is in the air. Anticipation of what is to come. Whether you are looking forward to that call with your bestie, the yellow of the forsythia in your backyard, or your next pajama day, the moment, right now, is full of what is to come. And what is to come can be anything you set out to bring. What are you calling in this spring?

Knowing what you want is quite different than asking for what you want...and just like the seasons, what brings us joy shifts and changes along the way. 

What if you don't know what you want? It's not always so crystal clear and that's ok. Start with the little things...what brings you joy? That cup of tea, the walk in the woods, that song that you like to play in the car....that's your map. Start there. 

If you've got a biggie want that seems so far away or out of...

I took a break. I'm swimming in ideas. There is so much I want to do and yet sometimes the body says wait. Sometimes the timing is different than we think. Whether you are healing, working on your comeback, or actively creating a life you love, the setbacks and flare-ups can be the hardest to manage. Heavy on the heart as the brain creates the banter that is not exactly wishful thinking. Noticing where you are in that moment is a key pivot point in not just healing but LIVING with a capital L!

Feeling great and feeling ick are not the only ways to get to know yourself. There is a magical space in-between. The pause, where you get to recover. The space to process your day, your week, and even the ick. The moments where you sit in the "feeling great" and "all is well".

This is where you find trust.

The wait is like a pregnant pause full of life to come. Trust the healing process. Trust the ebb and flow of life. Trust your body and note...is this a...

I never thought too much about the word AND. I think I lived in the land of one or the other. This OR that and when one cancels out the other, that can make for a hard decision and lead to the land of No decision. If you get stuck and find it hard to take action...check out your options. I can't work out in the gym yet AND I can go for a walk. I'm not sleepy AND I can get on my cozy pants and read in bed.

Adding the little word AND can add some movement and motivation when you come up against that inner critic that heckles with can't and should. Adding the word AND can soften that draggy feeling of resistance so you can do the thing even if the thing is to not do.

Sometimes you're ready to take action and...stall and sometimes it's time to rest and yet you stay busy and keep hopping. How do you switch it up? 

1) First off you're gonna take a little inventory. What are you wanting...what's the goal? If your...